The Feminine Secret to Healing a Relationship (Without Losing Yourself)
Dec 23, 2025A student asked me something very honest:
“Meira… I feel stuck.
My career has challenges, but I know time and effort can build that.
What truly drains me is my marriage.
Whenever I begin to feel energy rising inside me,
something happens in the relationship and it consumes me again.
Then my strength disappears.
I can’t sleep. My anxiety is intense.
Where do I even begin… to break free?”
I told her gently:
If you’re in a relationship that keeps pulling you down,
the first step is not to fix it.
The first step is to stop feeding it with your attention.
Not because you don’t care —
but because you must reclaim your energy first.
Pull yourself back.
Return to your centre.
Grow. Bloom. Expand.
When you remember who you are,
you realise: your life is vast.
Your vision is bigger than one relationship.
Marriage is only one part of your life’s landscape.
And when your inner world becomes larger,
you hold the relationship “lightly” — not desperately.
You stop carrying it like a mountain.
You become a woman who can lift heavy things with ease.
This is one of the greatest feminine keys:
Don’t chase love from the outside.
Become the love, and let everything reorganise around you.
I’ve seen this through so many student journeys:
as you deepen your practice, your perspective changes…
and one day you look back at what once felt unbearable —
and you almost smile.
Not because it didn’t matter,
but because you have grown beyond it.
— Meira